The attachment parenting (AP) method can easily be misrepresented and misunderstood. While this technique seems to require parents - in particular mothers - to devote lots of their time to things like baby-wearing, on-demand breastfeeding and co-sleeping, there are several myths about it. Actually, AP rules can and should be adapted to fit any family.
AP intense system of parent-child attachment, that advocates deeply bonding with your infant, was popularized in 2001 by The Attachment Parenting Book by pediatrician William Sears and his wife Martha Sears, a registered nurse. The six "Baby B's" represent the background of the method: Bonding, Breastfeeding, Baby-wearing, Bedding close to baby, Belief in the language value of baby's cry and Beware of baby trainers.
Let's take a closer look at 7 interesting attachment parenting myths.
Myth #1: According to AP, Mothers must breastfeed their children for years on end.
In fact, even if some supporters of attachment parenting practice extended breastfeeding, it's not a requirement. The weaning process is considered as an experience that can be a little different for every child.
Myth #2: AP means you'll never sleep.
In fact, on the contrary, some AP advocates consider co-sleeping as a way to get more and better rest.
Myth #3: AP discourages children's independence.
In fact, on the contrary, AP seeks to encourage more independence in your children as they grow up.
Myth #4: AP strains your relationship with your partner.
In fact, AP is all about balance and doesn't mean putting your kids before everyone else in your life. Making time for your partner and other important people is a key element of the system.
Myth #5: AP impairs your sex life.
How are you supposed to find time for intimacy when you are sleeping with your child? A solution, for example, once your baby is asleep, is to slip away to another room or another bed in order to proceed. A few creativity can allow parents to find both the privacy and time to fulfill their own needs - without having a baby crying.
Myth #6: AP involves to respect strict rules.
In fact, AP is not focused on following a series of rules and even encourages parents to make deliberate choices. According to Lisa Ricciuti, an Attachment Parenting International Accredited Leader, "Attachment parenting is a concept that is all about connecting and forming relationships between parent and child."
Myth #7: AP is the best parenting technique for all families.
In fact, there are many different approaches to parenting, so no single method is necessarily the best for any family.
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